Nobody walks down the aisle planning to get divorced someday. Every couple fully believes they’ll be the ones who make it, no matter what life throws at them. But reality doesn’t always cooperate, and sometimes the person you promised forever to becomes someone you barely recognize.
One Redditor asked divorced people to share the exact moment they realized their marriage was over, and their answers were seriously painful to read. We’ve gathered them below. Scroll down to read them.
#1
My aunt took me out to dinner (I even remember the dish I ate and almost 20-some years later I still can taste it) and told me about the things my cousin was going through with her boyfriend… except everything she said was something my husband had done to me. Then she put a small pile of printouts in front of me and it was all the texts I had sent my parents and brothers regarding each incident. It was shocking. She told me she had a moving van ready and my other various cousins ready to help me move out. She had a few police officers there because my ex had a habit of getting very violent.
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#2
I found out I was in stage 3, thyroid cancer. It spread to my lymph nodes and to my neck muscles. He would not take any time off work to go with me to any doctor appointments and when I was hospitalized, he only stayed few minutes at a time.
#3
He forgot my birthday.
He cheated on me and I was actually going to forgive him for it. We were in the middle of buying a house(I was putting all the money down and in NYC!) and I basically thought I was in too deep and we could work it out. Then my birthday came, I was depressed and since we had recently moved to NYC I was very alone. My mom came down to visit me and we were talking about everything and I mentioned he hadn’t even wished me happy birthday. I saw her get on her phone for a moment while we were walking through central park and within 5 minutes I got a happy birthday text from him. I knew she had reminded him. That was it.
Cancelled the house sale, got all my good faith money back, moved in with a coworker I barely knew (who became my best friend to this day), and made my ex pay me back all the money I had spent clearing his debt. I’m married to a wonderful supportive man and working my dream job now!
I told God I’m ready, but if I survive, I want a divorce. That was 26 years ago. Good riddance to both of my cancers!
#4
In the hospital room with my 5 hour old son her phone goes off while she is at a procedure.
Get to see 100 I love you and I miss you to her ex boss.
Yes I DNA swabbed my son. Yes he is mine.
I cannot begin to explain how much it hurts to see your wife tell someone else I love you more than they have told you. Throw in the fact I decided to not say a word to avoid post partum depression and harm to my son it was the worst 6 months of my life. Hurt more than my cancer treatment did.
Divorce is almost finalized. I went to therapy I’m doing well mentally and physically and ready for the next stage of my life.